Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Happy For No Reason

Boy I sure wish that I could be Happy For No Reason pretty much all the time. If I am happy its for a reason, I just won the lottery, I just finished the laundry, or I just ate a great meal. I won a book in a blog contest about a year ago Called Happy For No Reason by Marci Shimoff 7 steps to being happy from the inside out. I haven't even thumbed through the pages yet. I took it off my book shelf with 100 other titles of the same nature. Dusted it off and thought ok today is the day I will read at least one chapter. It looks as if I might just start this later in the week. Can you tell I am procrastinating here. I like to read don't get me wrong. But like I said before self help books are hiding way back in the garbage can waiting to be thrown at someone who mentions another book.

This comes from an except off her web page: What would it take to make you happy? A fulfilling career, a big bank account, or the perfect mate? What if it didn't take anything to make you happy? What if you could experience happiness from the inside out -- no matter what's going on in your life?
In Happy for No Reason: 7 Steps to Being Happy from the Inside Out, transformational expert Marci Shimoff offers a breakthrough approach to being happy, one that doesn't depend on achievements, goals, money, relationships, or anything else "out there." Most books on happiness tell you to find the things that make you happy and do more of them. Although there's nothing wrong with that, it won't bring you the kind of deep and lasting happiness most people long for -- the kind you'll never lose, no matter what happens in your life. Based on cutting-edge research and knowledge from the world's leading experts in the fields of positive psychology and neurophysiology, plus interviews with 100 truly happy people, this life-changing book provides a powerful, proven 7-step program that will enable you to be happier right now -- no matter where you start.
You don't have to have happy genes, win the lottery, or lose twenty pounds. By the time you finish this book, you will know how to experience sustained happiness for the rest of your life. Sounds good to me....

 There is also a test you can to see just how happy go lucky you are:

The Happy for No Reason Questionnaire
The following Happy for No Reason questionnaire is modeled after the tests that Positive Psychology researchers use to determine people's happiness levels--with one important difference! Most happiness questionnaires are "state-dependent"; that is, they ask you to rate your happiness according to what's going on in your life (job, career, relationships, and so on) and how satisfied you are with your life circumstances. Those questionnaires measure Happy for Good Reason. This questionnaire is completely unique; it measures Happy for No Reason, or your happiness level from the inside out.
As you answer these questions, think about how they apply to you in general.
Rate each statement on a scale of 1 to 5:
1 = Not at all true
2 = Slightly True
3 = Moderately True
4 = Mostly True
5 = Absolutely True
  1. I often feel happy and satisfied for no particular reason.
    1      2      3      4      5
  2. I live in the moment.
    1      2      3      4      5
  3. I feel alive, vital and energetic.
    1      2      3      4      5
  4. I experience a deep sense of inner peace and well-being.
    1      2      3      4      5
  5. Life is a great adventure for me.
    1      2      3      4      5
  6. I don't let bad situations keep me down.
    1      2      3      4      5
  7. I am enthusiastic about the things I do.
    1      2      3      4      5
  8. Most days I have an experience of laughter or joy
    1      2      3      4      5
  9. I trust this is a friendly universe.
    1      2      3      4      5
  10. I look for the gift or the lesson in everything that happens.
    1      2      3      4      5
  11. I am able to let go and forgive
    1      2      3      4      5
  12. I feel love for myself.
    1      2      3      4      5
  13. I look for the good in every person.
    1      2      3      4      5
  14. I change the things I can and accept the things I can't change.
    1      2      3      4      5
  15. I surround myself with people who support me
    1      2      3      4      5
  16. I don't blame others or complain.
    1      2      3      4      5
  17. My negative thoughts don't overshadow me.
    1      2      3      4      5
  18. I feel a general sense of gratitude.
    1      2      3      4      5
  19. I feel connected to something bigger than myself.
    1      2      3      4      5
  20. I feel inspired by a sense of purpose in my life.
    1      2      3      4      5
Scoring section:
If your score is 80 - 100: To a great degree, you are Happy for No Reason.
If your score is 60 - 79: You have a good measure of being Happy for No Reason.
If your score is 40 - 59: You have glimpses of being Happy for No Reason.
If your score is under 40: You have little experience of being Happy for No Reason.
Whatever your score, don't be discouraged. Science tells that we have control over at least 40% of the factors that determine our individual happiness levels. So, it doesn't matter where you begin; what matters is that you do begin. Reading my book Happy for No Reason will enable you to be happier right away. Once you've been practicing the seven steps and the Happiness Habits listed in the book, take the questionnaire again. After that, assessing your Happy for No Reason score on a regular basis will help you chart your progress.

Happy for No Reason: 7 Steps to Being Happy from the Inside Out

Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Staying Positive

It sure is hard to stay positive when you feel like crud. I am happy one minute and then the next I feel like choking someone for driving too fast, or not using their blinker. I am calm one minute and then feel totally anxious because the kitchen is a disaster and it's been that way for two days now. Don't sweat the small stuff all stuff is small someone awhile ago said to me. Just think of it every time you get angry over something so small.

Staying positive is something I strive for not only every day but every second of my life. The only thing going for me is being able to sit here and type how I feel and what is really inside of me. Do I care what others think? Not really. My motto: You don't pay my bills so shove off. But deep down inside after brewing about what I read or what I may have said YES I do care. I want to be a part of something positive. I feel that this is positive. I like the computer and what it has to offer. I like to read others stories of hope, dreams, love and abilities to overcome grief, death and losing.

How many self help books does one need to read in order to become a better person? I am tired of all the authors that think they have yet one more thing they can offer their readers that someone doesn't. Why don't they just all get together and write a book and then we all can read it once and pass it on to the next person who has just spent a good chunk of change on books to make them feel better.

I don't have a lot of positive people in my life I guess. The only one that comes to mind is my sister "L" she seems to be upbeat and always looks for the good in people. Just the other day at the store a young man said excuse me honey and I wanted to slap him silly. My sister said, " Maybe he meant that in a good way" I felt degraded. Creep. But now that I look back on it I feel bad for thinking that of him and thought well maybe my sister was right. So my goal for this week is to think positive in everyone. I sure don't want people to label me or stigmatize me, so in return I shouldn't do it either.

Check back on Monday and I will recap where I left off. If it was a good goal or not......


How To Choose Happiness...Most Of The Time: 30 Ways In 30 Days

Yellow Pages Blues

There are loads of things about mental health issues that no one consumer could handle in a day. Just going to see a therapist requires a lot of stamina and patience just to get in the door. For instance just last week I wanted to find a therapist again after a long 8 years of not having one. I looked in the yellow pages and started calling. I called most of the "A" section in the book and took a break because I was feeling burnt out. Most receptionists tell you that they would have to call back. Call back? I don't have time to sit and wait for a call back. Why can't I just make an appointment now?

So, while waiting and 4 hours later I called several friends and asked who them would recommend. But there is always a problem with insurance issues. If you have insurance then great you can get in. But like me I have none or little and it doesn't cover this type of service. So I try to get in on a sliding fee scale. I pay as I can, or pay so much down each time. These days in this economic downfall you would be able to find places that would help out just  a little. But no, that is quite impossible. So if you ever do and you are in the great Midwest please let me know.

There is also a wait for services probably in every county in the United States for mental health issues. In the newspaper yesterday I read about the outlaying areas who have to wait for months sometimes years just to get to see a psychiatrist. This is not right.  We shouldn't have to wait for anything. There is also the paper chasing game. I do know that in my hometown and I live in the Capitol State that there are still all those freakin papers you have to fill out. Whatever happen to electronic filing. I don't want to have to keep a book in my purse just so I can give it to each time I want services. This makes for a very frustrating and long day. Something I don't need.Choosing an Online Therapist: A Step-by-Step Guide to Finding Professional Help on the Web

 Long story short: I had one call back out of 73 phone calls I put in. One lousy stinking phone call. Just think I have the rest of the yellow pages to go. Pray for me!

Monday, June 28, 2010


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Light My Wick

I am writing this because I ran across a website that is all about candle making. I love candles I will buy any candle anywhere no matter what the price is. I often am quite disappointed to find out that the candle that I bought for over $15.00 doesn't even smell. I have to have smell people. I like to be able to walk into my house and not smell the cat box. I feel sorry for our guests. I actually am embarrassed.

So this candle making company is called The Candle Making Store  it has everything and anything you need to make your own candles. The one package I am probably going to order is the Complete Soy Candle Starter Kit 

The prices are very reasonable as well. I can't afford high priced candles anymore and making my own would be a delight. I can see it now... Birthdays, Holidays or just those special moments that you would like to say "Thanks for Being in my life"

They are also having a giveaway you can take a look at it on their site when you sign up for their newsletter or you can also view it on Crafty Mama of 4 blog. She has some other neat stuff to look at as well.

Just Another Manic Monday

Up at the crack of dawn just so my cat Nermal can get a drink of water. Clearing throat yes he only gets sink water. He is 11 years old what do you expect. I spoil him. He is my time clock. No need for expensive alarm clocks anymore that is for sure. Instead of hearing a horrendous sound of a beep. I hear a soft meow until I wake up. As soon as my eyes are open then bam. The meowing gets louder and louder. I can't move that well in the morning I suffer from Fibromyalgia in my knees especially. So I sit on the side of the bed and wait till I want to wince. 

Nermal gets his daily morning regimen along with his sister Oreo. Although Oreo doesn't get bathroom sink water she sticks with the good stuff out of her bowl. But they both get to dine on some sweet treats too. Something I should of stayed away from but what can I say they are my kids. They are satisfied and I am not. Coffee filters have disappeared and so I use paper towels and let me tell you this is not a good thing. Messes in the morning tend to put me in a dismal mood.

Am has a migraine again, nothing new there. Up to call the Dr. ( she gets a shot of the good stuff) twice a week to combat these horrible horrible pains. Trying to eliminate the narcotic diet though. Went to the sleep Dr. and they told her that she will die eventually if she doesn't wear her CPAP. Um this has been going on for over 5 years. I don't feel sorry for her anymore. What the heck took you so long. Her doctors have been telling her this for the last 10 years. No oxygen to the brain and wham you are bound to get a headache or worse yet a migraine. I don't understand people sometimes. But then again I have to deal with myself too so there is a big mystery right there.

Should really get ready for the day. But I just hate Monday's. I don't sleep that well these days and am hoping to find a regimen to conquer these sleepless nights. I do take sleeping medication but am trying to cut down. I would love to be able to sleep on my own. I never feel groggy in the morning I just feel wiped out after 2 hours later. I too should have a CPAP. But because of insurance problems I don't. So the day goes on.... back at you later.

Sunday, June 27, 2010

Personal Quiz

 I'm taking a quiz that I found over at Peggy Sue's Perspective -- Rants & Randomness
blog. If you want to, cut and copy the quiz and post it over at your blog and send me a link to it in my comments so I can check out your answers.

What color are your socks right now? I don't ever wear socks in the summer. Flip Flops everywhere. Sometimes I wear socks at night. But that hardly happens anymore.

What are you listening to right now? Criminal Minds in the next room. I can't watch that stuff when I am eating.

What was the last thing you ate? Just had chili cheese and mac with buttered bread and my favorite Brussels sprouts in butter.

Can you drive a stick? No, not interested!

Last person you spoke to on the phone? My mom, they are selling their house to move to Florida.

How old are you today? Just had a birthday. If you are that interested you can figure it out.

What is your favorite sport to watch on TV? Eating contests. That is a sport isn't it?

What is your favorite drink? Instant Tea. Nothing in it ever. Plain

Have you ever dyed your hair? Used to in my teens, all kinds of colors. Pink, green, black, now I am natural gray.

Favorite food? anything salty. especially saltine crackers and peanut butter

What is the last movie you watched? Shutter Island. It stunk. I am appalled for my family and friends thinking I would like it.

Favorite day of the year? 10-28-94 The birth of my son C.J. Rest in peace

How do you vent anger? LOL this could be a book. I don't handle it very well. I scream, say a lot of "F" words and then break down and cry.

What was your favorite toy as a child? My hotwheel.

Favorite Season?  Fall.

Cherries or Blueberries? Love em both, don't eat them because I get heartburn really really bad.

Living situation? I live with partner and two cats. Nermal and Oreo

When was the last time you cried? 1996 the year my son died
What is on the floor of your closet right now? everything, laundry day tomorrow.

What are you most afraid of? being murdered. How morbid right well I watch to many Criminal Minds I think

Plain, cheese, or spicy hamburgers? No red meat for me, just thinking of it makes my head spin

Favorite dog breed? Black labs, although I don't and will never have one. My cats are my kids.

Favorite day of the week? Wednesday. In the middle is all right by me.

How many states have you lived in? Wisconsin, Minnesota and back to Wisconsin so 2

Diamonds or pearls? Diamonds and only on my current ring finger.
What is your favorite flower? Sunflowers

Did you get an H1N1 vaccine? yes, I have a lung disease so I try to stay on top of stuff like that.

Friday, June 25, 2010

Birthday Surprises

My birthday was good. Hot, hot, hot outside. I don't like being sticky anymore. As a kid I could handle the warm sun and would always say, " It better be hot out on my birthday." Whew! Not anymore. So my sister, nephew came from MN and my mom and my partner all went to a place called Nitty Gritty here in WI. It's the birthday restaurant known for their big burgers. Plus you get a free glass mug and a balloon. You also get a free mini sundae every month until your next birthday. Can't resist right?

We then went to a bar that we frequent and I wanted a glass of  Prairie Fume but it was so warm in there I started to get a headache so after a short talk with our favorite bartender Paul we left. Too hot to enjoy it. Went home and opened up a gift from my partner and it was a $25.00 playfish cash card. LOL hmmm some people just don't listen I guess.

So, I had to go back to Restaurant City on Facebook and use the card.  Listen don't buy stuff like this. It isn't worth it. It went so fast and things are even expensive on there. I am glad I received it for my birthday because I wouldn't have bought it for myself.  Over all my birthday was good. But, I realize now that I am getting older and things in my life need to change. Physically and mentally. I need to stay fit and active and challenge myself more so I don't sit on my duff and do this all day.


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Tuesday, June 22, 2010

Happy Birthday To Me

That's right folks it's my birthday! Whoop Whoop. The big "39" can't believe it. It came so quick I can't believe June is almost over. And the year for that fact. Here is a run down on what happened in my year of birth.

How Much things cost in 1971
Yearly Inflation Rate USA 4.3%
Year End Close Dow Jones Industrial Average 890
Average Cost of new house $25,250.00
Average Income per year $10,600.00
Average Monthly Rent $150.00
Cost of a gallon of Gas 40 cents
Datsun 1200 Sports Coupe $1,866.00
United States postage Stamp 8 cents
Ladies 2 piece knit suites $9.98
Movie Ticket $1.50 

Sylmar earthquake hits the San Fernando Valley area of California.
The Voting Age in the United States is lowered to 18 yrs old when the 26th Amendment to the US constition is ratified

  • Led Zeppelin releases their untitled fourth album
  • Jim Morrison of The Doors found dead in bath tub in Paris
Popular Films
  • Love Story
  • Summer of '42
  • Ryan's Daughter
  • The Owl and the Pussycat
  • The Aristocats
  • Carnal Knowledge
  • The Andromeda Strain
  • The French Connection
Popular Musicians and songs
  • James Taylor
  • The Doors
  • Bob Dylan
  • Tony Orlando and Dawn with " Knock Three Times "
  • Janis Joplin with " Me and Bobby Mcgee "
  • The Who
  • Mungo Jerry
  • John Lennon
  • The Jackson 5
  • Ike and Tina Turner
  • Marvin Gaye
  • Rod Stewart with " Maggie Mae "
  • The Osmonds
  • Michael Jackson
  • The Rolling Stones with " Brown Sugar " 

Popular TV Programmes
  • All My Children
  • Mary Tyler Moore
  • McCloud
  • The Odd Couple
  • The Partridge Family 
* Taken from What Happened in 1971*

Monday, June 21, 2010

Prescription Medications Verses Over the Counter

I am not a Dr. and don't claim to be one. In fact I don't know much about my numbers and am seeking out answers from others and what and how they deal with high Cholesterol etc..... I am writing this while I look at my labs from my Dr. I turn 39 on the 22 of June so I had this total brain shock and want to know more about other treatments other than what my dr. will prescribe coming Monday. I would love to take something that is natural for my body. Not much natural in it as we speak.

So I am going to give you a boring run down on my numbers and would like it if you could advise me on something that worked for you. I am not looking for prescriptions. I want over the counter or Natural only.

I am a 39 female who is Type 2 diabetic

Cholesterol 196
A1C 6.3

If I was to start taking Omega 3 Fish Oil for Cholesterol would this be sufficient for me.
Also I am anemic so I  have been taking supplements for that as well. I am fatigued most of the time, and when I do eat better I feel rested. So my Dr. doesn't seem to raise any eyebrows to that but it scares me a bit.

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Make the Most of Life

I sit everyday for at least 10 minutes before I do anything of importance for the day. I take time to reflect on loves lost and what could be. I sometimes sit and laugh or cry depending on what memories I have of the little one that is now in heaven. I sit and wonder what he would be like, what he would be wearing, or what his favorite color would be. I sit and close my eyes and reflect on the time that he was in my life.

C.J. would be 14 years old. It is hard sometimes to read other blogs and everyone talks about their children. People ask do you have kids? Sometimes I say yes and other days I feel strong enough to say no and then I tell C.J.'s story. Usually people don't know what to say and they get embarrassed but I tell them not to. I am glad they had a listening ear.

C.J. was born with
Atrial Septal Defect: ASD is a defect in the septum between the heart’s two upper chambers (atria). The septum is a wall that separates the heart’s left and right sides. Septal defects are sometimes called a “hole” in the heart. He had surgery to patch the hole in his heart but had many complications after surgery. He was on a daily dose of steroids, antibiotics, you name it he was on it. He was a very active boy and loved to run and jump and get into things he probably shouldn't have. His prognosis for the future were bleak. The patch didn't work and he left this world in my arms on the way to the hospital. There are many people who have or had this in their early stages of life. I have met many women who had the surgery in their teens and have nothing but good things to say. That is where it gets hard to talk about. That is where I say "Why my son?" A load of other stuff happened prior to the day he passed. But that is too hard to talk about. A lot of this I can't think about I get angry at the Dr.'s for passing him by. I feel that if only I was in a certain income bracket this would have never happened. I can't dwell on the past and that is why I make the Most of Life.

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Build a funny story about a Dad you know for a chance to win a $100 Gift Card instantly!

Here is my story:

Everyone knows Dad loves to build stuff. After a long career as a/an Singing instructor, Dad finally retired. With long days to fill now, My Dad encouraged him to take up woodworking. However, the garage was a mess with all the Golf Clubs. He practically had a collection of these to get rid of; they had even spilled out into yard!

Our neighbor lent him some tools to get started on building a shelf, but Dad left them near the Tree Fort too long. You guessed it -- they rusted. I shook my Big Toe in embarrassment and decided to get out of Dodge by taking our Humpback Whale for a walk. (Of course, I avoided our neighbor.)

Back in the garage, Dad was hard at work with the rusty tools trying to build a Cell Phone. I could see this new process was making him Calm. I tried to accept his new hobby, although I was going to keep my distance so I could keep my Feet safe!

If a man's place is in the garage, then my place is The Airport! Some dads say "Measure twice, cut once." My dad is more likely to say, "Don't forget to check the oil!."

Happy Father's Day, Dad!

Family Dollar and You

Most of you know that my love for clothing and household items at a price you can afford is right up my alley. I would rather go to the Dollar stores than to the big boxed stored any day of the week. Let me tell you this.... She Scribes is having a great giveaway for Family Dollar. Just think of all the cute clothes you could by for your son/daughter or even maybe yourself.

$50 Gift Card to Family Dollar Store

What are you waiting for this contest ends soon.
This giveaway is open to US residents only and will end on June 24, 2010 at 11:59 PM (EST)

Monday, June 14, 2010

I Just Won 11 Swag Bucks on

I Just Won 11 Swag Bucks on

Letters From The Heart

I just have to write about a very special lady by the name of Terry Rose. Terry Rose is a peach! Last year I won a blog contest to have Terry Rose from Letters From The Heart write to my 96 year old grandmother who is in assisted living. I was blown away by how kind and generous with her time she made for me. We spoke on the phone and she asked me what interests my grandma had or has. Things change when you get older so her golfing days have been long long gone.

Letters-From-The-Heart provides fun, inspiration, friendship, and that wonderful feeling of having something special to look forward to each month. My grandmother at first was like "who is this writing and always blamed my mom for doing it" Then I had the chance to tell her that I won her service for a year and that she will be writing to you for a year. She loves them and looks forward to Terry Rose writing to her now.
My grandmother gets special gifts tailored just for her. She really appreciates it and my mom does too. In fact so much that she signed up for another 6 months.

How does it work?

When you purchase Letters-from-the-Heart you purchase an entire year of friendship and enjoyment for your special family member.

This unique program includes a personalized, hand-written letter mailed to your loved-one at approximately the same time each month. It also includes a birthday card and gift and a festive holiday card and gift during the month of December.

I urge you to take a chance and visit her website or even call her. Ask any question you may have etc.... It is well worth the money and I would do this again for someone I don't even know. Just to bring a smile to their face.

Sunday, June 13, 2010

Back to Basics

Well folks today is the day that I have gone a full day without playing any FB games. I have been taking it easy due to the fact that I have had heartburn aka Acid Reflux Disease flare up for the past two days. No medication nor chewing on antacids is going to take this away. You would think I would learn to chill on the foods that I am supposed to avoid. How can one resist with such temptations such as chocolate, fried greasy foods and mini donuts. We went to see a movie yesterday and the popcorn must of had bad butter. It was the most disgusting thing I have ever had. We both were so sick from it. But yet after only an hour we went out to dinner. Of course I had a Slippery Banana and water. My DH had potato skins loaded. Will we ever learn? Probably not till we both have heart attacks. Sad issue going on here.

Saturday, June 12, 2010

I Used to:

I used to groove to many kinds of music. Before I got stuck on FB. So I have been using to listen to many of the bands I would listen to before my obsession with Facebook games etc...

One of my many favorites is PHISH. Phish became one of the most significant live music phenomena of all time.

Talk about being obsessive. I fit this to the "T" I listened day and night and breathed Phish. Then it all stopped.

The End Part 2

Suddenly I had this feeling of "screw it" I have to get off Facebook Games. So I did. If you happen to come along and see that I am no longer on your Facebook Friends well then that is because you have been deleted my friend. Don't take it personally but if I am going to stop playing games then you needed to depart as well.

I am keeping Facebook open because there is loads of other stuff on there that can be of interest. For instance a blog by the name of Bitchy Waiter

Check it out it's hilarious....


For the first time in over a year or so we went to a the movie Shrek in 3D. It was awesome. I remember as a kid getting those paper glasses, not this time they are black and remind me of The Blues Brothers. It was a great time out. We then went for a long ride trying to get lost but to no avail we ended up where we started.

We stopped and got a bite to eat at Culver's which is a hamburger joint. Which was even better because we had the chance to use our Barter Bucks and saved a bit of moola. It was such a nice day and I hope that we can do it again sometime.

I am still disappointed that I can't return to Facebook games but I will take what we did today over any foolish game again.

Friday, June 11, 2010

The End

As I sit here trying to get into my Facebook game since early this evening, I think maybe this is a sign a sign to finally close shop and get the heck out of dodge. Inside I am terrorized to think that I won't wake up to my neighbors anymore. I keep thinking of excuses of what I will miss. I won't miss a dang thing and no one will miss me. True isn't it? I play games my life is one big game. No one will care if they are missing a neighbor. No one will care if they don't receive food anymore. No one will care if I close up and say that's it.

I guess I could go back to a passion I had and Sweep to my hearts content. I did quite well with that. Won a lot of things on blog contests and of course there I go again and spend endless hours in front of the computer entering tons of stuff just to see if I can win a key chain with a company I don't even really know about. What a joke.

I guess you will have to wait and see what the outcome of my Facebook playing days will be.... Until then have a fantastic night and enjoy your loved ones.

Another day Another Game

Here I thought I was doing good. I closed all my games down, yes all of them. But then a new game came out on June 9th. There I was ready and waiting to play. FrontierVille was the game I was going to concentrate on "only." Yeah right. I have been doing great so far but I also have a little itty bitty secret. I play my son's and my DH's when they are not home. I do get things done believe it or not. My home is always clean, dishes washed and food on the table. Errands get side tracked but other than that I pretty much stay on top of things.

I don't watch t.v. anymore or spend time with DH. I just get so wound up on FB and everything else that I can't control it. I do need some help. I have three hours of free time this evening and where am I? Right here. I should be concentrating on letting my eyes get a break.

Wednesday, June 9, 2010

Addictions: Facebook

When I first started using Facebook I wasn't particularly interested in connecting with old friends. I wasn't interested in knowing what they were doing. I used Facebook to play the games. Cafe World, Restaurant City, Yoville and Farmville any game I could get my hands on. I played for hours and then turned into weeks. I was intrigued by how many types of food I could cook in a day. How many plants I could plant in a few hours. I timed my games to when I would wake up and when I would go to bed. I had panic attacks when I missed my food and it became spoiled. After several months of driving myself mad and my husband for that fact I stopped. Cold turkey.

But like with any addiction I relapsed. I relapsed to the point of creating not only one account but several. I was stuck. I felt like I failed and didn't share with anyone what I did all day. After beating myself up and being depressed I quit again.

I went back to my first Facebook account my original and started playing those damn games again. I don't know the joy of anything else and am stuck again. I truly don't have any control over myself and thank my higher power that it's not drugs or drinking. But it's serious and I need help.

The Mental Health industry does not find this to be a serious problem. But there are thousands of websites willing to help with internet addiction. Cognitive therapy based approaches are recommendable due to their systematic and direct focus on reducing problem use and preventing relapse, and the strong scientific support for the approach.